Episode 60
Have you ever wished for something, prayed for something, tried to manifest something… and felt like your prayer was unanswered?
Or maybe even more confusing… that after you asked, after you visualized, after you opened your heart to what you truly desired… things actually seemed to get harder.
Old fears surfaced.
Challenges appeared.
Doubts intensified.
Triggers came up.
And instead of feeling like you were moving closer to what you desired, it may have felt like you were moving farther away from it.
This week, I want to explore the idea of unanswered prayers… the idea of not receiving what we’re trying to manifest, why it can sometimes feel harder right after we ask, and how shifting our perspective may completely change the way we understand what’s happening.
Because what if the obstacles appearing after we pray are not signs of failure?
What if they are part of the arrival path itself?
If you’re ready to join me, pull up a comfy chair, invite in your soul, and be open to receive exactly what you need to live, be, and thrive as the embodied soul you are.
Recently, I came across a reflection that resonated with me so deeply.
It was around us asking for something, desiring something, praying for something… trying to bring something into our lives.
And it said—and I’m paraphrasing—that you may be met with obstacles that appear to be precluding you from the very thing you’re asking for… as the thing you’re asking for is actually making its way toward you.
And that landed so deeply for me.
Because it’s not a completely new idea. I’ve said for a long time that everything we experience in any now moment is, in some way, happening for us.
So the idea that challenges arise, or that we experience things we don’t necessarily prefer, isn’t new.
But this framing felt different.
Because when we are praying for something, when we are truly desiring something from our heart, anything that is not aligned with receiving it—fear, desperation, urgency, unworthiness, attachment, lack—often has to rise to the surface in order to be seen and released before that desire can fully land in our lived experience.
In other words… the obstacle may not be blocking the prayer.
It may actually be part of its arrival path.
And as I sat with that through the week, the most beautiful metaphor came through to me that helped me understand it in a much more grounded and practical way.
So, imagine a plane circling above an airport, waiting to land.
From the perspective of the passengers onboard, it might feel frustrating.
Why aren’t we landing yet?
What’s taking so long?
Did something go wrong?
But what the passengers may not be able to see is that there’s debris on the runway.
Maybe there are vehicles on the landing strip.
Maybe there are blockades.
Maybe there’s damage that needs to be cleared before the plane can safely land.
And suddenly, the delay is no longer punishment.
The runway is being cleared so the plane can land safely, smoothly, and in alignment.
And what if our manifestations—our prayers, our heart’s desires—work much the same way?
What if some of the challenges that arise after we ask for something are not evidence that the dream is failing… but evidence that the runway is being cleared for its arrival?
Because it’s not that your prayer is being unanswered.
It’s not that you’re failing at manifestation.
It’s not that you’re doing something wrong.
It’s that, in order for something to fully arrive into your reality, you may have to be willing to see, face, acknowledge, and release the things that are preventing you from receiving it.
And this is where many of us struggle.
Because the first thing we tend to do when difficulties arise is assume we’ve done something wrong.
So maybe you visualize for a few days.
Maybe you pray.
Maybe you set an intention and try to stay in a higher state.
And then all of a sudden, things start feeling worse.
Old fears arise.
Relationship triggers come up.
Money fears surface.
Doubt appears.
Body shame appears.
Emotional turbulence rises.
And we immediately think:
“Oh no. I must be disconnected.”
“I must not be worthy.”
“I must not be doing something wrong”
And often at this stage - we stop.
We feel defeated.
Like it’s not working.
Why bother continuing?
But what if that surfacing material is not random chaos?
What if it’s debris being revealed on the runway?
Because if we immediately collapse into self-judgment, fear, or hopelessness, we often tether ourselves even more deeply into the very frequency that’s preventing us from receiving what we desire.
And this is why perspective matters so deeply.
When we begin viewing our prayers as always being responded to—even if not always in the timing or form we expected—we can start seeing obstacles differently.
Not necessarily as punishment.
Not necessarily as proof of failure.
But perhaps as part of the unfolding itself.
And honestly… I find that strangely comforting.
For example, you desire a loving relationship.
But if underneath that desire is desperation…
“If I don’t have someone, I’m incomplete.”
“I need this in order to feel worthy.”
“I need someone so I don’t feel alone.”
…then those deeper fears are likely going to surface.
Not because love is being withheld from you.
But because those fears are part of what needs to be cleared from the runway before the relationship can land in a healthy and aligned way.
And so instead of:
“I need love.”
It becomes:
“I am open to love.”
“I am open to receiving.”
“I am opening to allowing love into my life.”
And then life may begin showing you the beliefs, patterns, fears, and structures that are still interfering with your ability to receive that.
And while that can feel uncomfortable… it’s also beautiful.
Because every obstacle, every challenge, every triggering moment may not be evidence that love is far away.
It may actually be love getting closer.
The manifestation moving closer to form.
And I think one of the reasons this perspective can feel hard to trust is because when we’re in the middle of something painful, it’s difficult to see clearly.
But often, hindsight helps us build trust.
So I’d invite you right now to think about something you once deeply desired… something you prayed for, hoped for, manifested… that eventually did come true.
And then ask yourself:
What did you go through before it arrived?
What delays happened?
What frustrations happened?
What detours happened?
What challenges showed up?
Because often, it’s only in retrospect that we realize those things were not random obstacles.
They were the runway being cleared.
One example that comes to mind for me is that we’ve been building a place in Costa Rica that we’ll eventually rent out.
And before the right builder appeared, we went through multiple builders and designers.
At the time, it felt exhausting.
One person felt completely misaligned.
Another ghosted us.
Another situation felt like we were just banging our heads against the wall.
And all the while there was this urgency:
“We need to get this moving.”
“Why is this taking so long?”
“Why is this so difficult?”
But when the right builder finally appeared, things unfolded with so much more ease and alignment.
And looking back now, I can clearly see that those earlier situations were not failures.
They were debris on the runway.
And had we forced those earlier situations to work, the outcome likely would have been far more difficult than the delay itself.
And this is why reflection matters.
Because the parts of us that say:
“This is nonsense.”
“This isn’t working.”
“I’ve been hurt before.”
…are often the parts of us that are scared.
The tired parts.
The disappointed parts.
The protective parts.
And when we take time to remember:
“Oh… actually, there have been times where things eventually made sense.”
…we begin building trust inside ourselves again.
Trust that maybe not everything is falling apart.
Trust that maybe something is being rearranged.
Trust that maybe the runway is simply still being cleared.
Now, let me be clear:
This is not about denying pain.
It’s not about pretending difficult things feel good.
It’s about the meaning we assign to what arises after we’ve acknowledged the reality of our experience.
Because we do still have choice in perspective.
We can collapse into:
“My life is against me.”
“My prayer isn’t being answered.”
“Nothing ever works out for me.”
Or we can gently begin asking:
“What if this is preparing me?”
“What if this is showing me something?”
“What if this is helping clear the runway for what I asked for?”
Because so much changes when we allow ourselves to view something from a different angle.
So where in your life right now do you feel like your prayers are not being answered?
Where do you feel abandoned, blocked, delayed, disconnected?
And what if, instead of seeing those experiences as evidence of failure… you allowed yourself to consider that they may be part of the arrival process itself?
That this challenge… may actually be showing you the next thing ready to be seen, healed, released, or acknowledged.
Because your highest expression—as soul in body—is what you came here to live.
And one practice that may support you here is this:
Whenever you find yourself out of alignment, simply pause and say:
“I am now choosing to align my energy systems to the highest I can right now.”
And then allow yourself to soften.
Breathe.
Observe your situation again from that higher alignment.
Because when we choose from fear, we most often create from fear.
But when we pause and reconnect to the highest alignment available to us in that moment, we begin responding from a very different energetic space.
And one simple three-step practice that may support you is this:
First: Notice.
Notice where you’re resisting.
Notice where fear, frustration, urgency, or hopelessness are arising.
Second: Align.
“I now choose to align my energy systems to the highest I can right now.”
And third: Reframe.
Ask yourself:
“What if this experience is helping me prepare for what I asked for?”
“What if this is revealing debris on the runway?”
“What if this challenge is not proof that my prayer is failing… but part of helping it land?”
And maybe this doesn’t make every challenge instantly easy.
Maybe it doesn’t suddenly remove grief, frustration, disappointment, or uncertainty.
But perhaps it softens the way we hold those experiences.
Perhaps it allows us to meet them with a little more compassion…
a little more curiosity…
and a little less self-punishment.
Because so many of us have been taught that if something isn’t arriving, if something feels delayed, if life suddenly becomes difficult after we ask for something… then we must be failing, doing something wrong.
But what if that’s not true?
What if the turbulence does not mean the plane is lost?
What if the circling does not mean the prayer has been denied?
What if something is simply still being cleared from the runway so that what you asked for can arrive in a safer, cleaner, more aligned way?
And maybe the invitation is not to force the landing…
…but to trust the process of preparation a little more deeply.
Because it’s been really meaningful for me to reflect on the possibility that even the challenges that appear after we pray, ask, or set an intention… may not be signs of failure at all.
They may actually be signs that what we asked for is already on its way.
And if you’re moving through one of those seasons right now—one where things feel uncertain, delayed, difficult, or emotionally turbulent—I hope you’ll be gentle with yourself.
Maybe the runway is simply still being cleared.
And with that, I send you so much love.
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And I look forward to being with you again next week.
